Dating someone who has ptsd
Small provocation, small response (but this could get you killed on the battlefield).When the training becomes second nature, a warrior might take any adrenaline rush as a cue to “apply maximum firepower.” This can become particularly unfortunate if someone starts to cry.He may not see that you stay with him as a conscious choice. "The training kicks in" means something very different to him.It is direct battle doctrine that when ambushed by a superior force, the correct response is "Apply maximum firepower and break contact." A warrior has to be able to respond to threat with minimal time pondering choices.The emotional side of killing in combat is complex.He may not know how to feel about what he's seen or done, and he may not expect his feelings to change over time.Warriors can experiences moments of profound guilt, shame, and self-hatred.He may have experienced a momentary elation at "scoring one for the good guys," then been horrified that he celebrated killing a human being.
Sometimes a combat veteran tells me things that they wish their families knew.
Succeeding in combat defines a warrior, places him in a brotherhood where he is always welcome and understood. It would be easy for him to die for you because he loves you.
The civilian world has its adrenaline junkies as well; just ask any retired firefighter, police officer, or emergency room staff if they miss it. Living for you, which is what you actually want, is harder for him.
I am married to a woman who survived a bloody genocide.
She'll talk about that part of her life with no evident difficulty.